Living Life Sheltered and Naive

By  now most of you know my past.  I was the typical “good girl.”  I was raised in a Christian home with great Christ centered morals.  I went to Sunday School every Sunday and Youth Group every Wednesday.  I learned Bible verses at a young age and was taught the difference between right and wrong.  To some of you this may seem a “sheltered” life.  I did attend public school but the Lord had mercy on me and provided Christian friends that didn’t always live their faith out, but had great morals.  I was saved from seeing “culture” as some people may say.  I was completely naive to sex and sex related activities until high school, and even then my knowledge was very small.

When I met Ryan I was 23.  And quite honestly I hadn’t learned too much more in that area.  I had been surrounded by great Christian friends and was in my bubble at a Christian college.  Ry has a bit of a different testimony, and as he would say he was building a strong one for awhile:)  He is an amazing man but did experience more than I in the on goings of this world. Some of the stories I would hear from him or others would quite shock me.

I remember after being married to Ry for about 4 years , asking him if he is ever embarrassed by me.  Not quite sure why I asked that question?!?  The only thing he said is that sometimes he was embarrassed by my naiveness to things.  Oh course I jumped on the defense right away because that’s what I tend to do:)  But that was over a year ago now and as of lately I have been thinking about this topic a lot.

Our world is changing at an amazingly fast rate.  Not for the better in my opinion.  As we’ve had children you realize even more how scary of a world it can be.  Ry and I have been considering very strongly home-schooling our kiddos and I am always amazed by how many people are quick to say I don’t want my children so sheltered.  I need them to experience life.  I want them to know what the world is like out there.  And for awhile I would just nod my head and not say much.  And I am not writing this post to say everyone should home school.  I am writing this post to evaluate where our thinking has come.  As I have looked into this topic more I wish I could respond to people with, why in the world would you want them to know everything that’s in this world?? Why would you desire them to experience it??  Why would you not want to protect them from some of it??

There is a difference between being naive to the sin of the world and being naive to God and his word.  Which one is of greater importance for you and your children??

The simple inherit folly, but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.   Proverbs 14:18

More than being “cultured” with what is going on in our society, I believe we need to be knowledgeable of what the Lord has called us to do.  How He has called us to act and behave.  As I was reflecting on Ry’s comment of being embarrassed of me in that area, I later praised God for it.  I thank the Lord that he has guarded my eyes and ears from the sin of this world.  I thank him for the knowledge He has given me to know what is right and wrong, what I want to engage in and what I want to stay away from.

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. … Romans 12: 1-21

With that being said, I want to make sure that people realize we are still called to love on people of this world.  The sinners, the sick, the needy, the unlovables.  We are not called to run away from all things that are of a sinful nature.  We are called to not PARTAKE in them though.  We are to lead blameless lives, free of sin.  (if only it were that easy!)

I have had friends from all groups.  I have amazing Christian friends that challenge me and I aspire to be more like them.  I have friends that come right along side me daily and encourage me.  I have friends that I feel like I try to encourage them and be there for them.  I have friends with big testimonies and friends with small testimonies.  (which they are all big in Jesus’ eyes, but you know what I mean:)  And even though I am quite naive to still quite a bit, I love them all the same.  Because that’s what we are called to do.  And even though I may not have experienced all the same temptations, I endure my own on a daily basis.  I fight my own fights and am by no way claim to be perfect in any area.

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? Luke 6:41

So.  Why did I feel like I needed to write this post??  Well, I recently saw this on a friends facebook page and listened to it.  It shook me quite a bit…it’s only two and a half minutes long and I really think you should listen to it.  It’s called If I were the Devil, and it’s Paul Harvey speaking in 1965 about if he were the devil what he would attack in our nation and our culture.  It’s eerily prophetic of where we have come..

What really got me thinking is of how the devil really has worked his way into so many little areas of our life.  I just wrote a blog on television and since then the Lord has been convicting me all the more on this topic.  I used to easily get sucked into The Bachelor, you know… all in good fun.  But if I asked myself what of this is pleasing to the Lord?? I just couldn’t come up with anything.  I convinced myself that since I wouldn’t watch rated R movies, and there’s only a couple of questionable scenes in the movie it was alright.   I recently have seen so many people proudly announce on Facebook books that they are reading that make me cringe at first thought, but as of recently make me want to cry.  Satan has entered so many areas of our life and this world that it is hard to not succumb to it.  I praise God for my naiveness of the world and continue to seek out His word for knowledge of how to live in this world.  I desire more of Jesus and with that being said, drastic things need to change.  And lastly I desire to keep my kids as pure as long as possible.  If this makes them socially awkward, so be it.  I’d rather have them looking awkward in this world than in the next!

If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. John 15:19

I honestly hope this doesn’t offend you, I just wanted to share what the Lord has been laying on my heart.  I pray that you would continue to increase your knowledge of the Word of Jesus and not of the pleasures of this world:)


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12 thoughts on “Living Life Sheltered and Naive”

  1. I think you are confusing naivety with being untainted. God does not want us to be naive ( lacking wisdom or judgement. He calls us to discerning. It is not naive not to know of some sin, or slang or immoral practice, it’s called practicing holiness. I am a homeschooling mom of 8 , ranging in ages from 28-14. I have 23 years experience, I have also subbed in the public school system and have been so thankful God called me to the challenging task of teaching my children at home. Not a single one is socially awkward and they can relate to all age groups. they weren’t socialized by their peers so they aren’t knowledgeable of a lot of ungodly practices, but neither are they naive. My bet is that you truly aren’t naive either, but careful with what you allow into your life.May God bless you as you pursue Him.

  2. I saw this post and i can relate to the same thing me and my friend were getting into an arguement then he said i was sheltered i did not know what it means but i got offended right away

  3. Evie Larson (Prazuch)

    Hi Allie, that is a very eery video! I found your page from a few mutual FB friends and I enjoy seeing your projects and style! It is encouraging to read of your faith and wish I would have known you better in HS, since we went to the same one!

  4. Hi! I just found your blog somehow, :D and then this post. It is so timely for me right now. As I look around me and see what the world is offering, I’ve felt so discouraged! I’ve recently delved into the scriptures and really tried to put more of the good into our home: better music, movies, etc. It’s frightening how many are not seeing evil for evil – I’ve always been considered the naive goody-goody, but I didn’t expect it as an adult. However, if that’s what it takes to be in the world but not of it, then sign me up! Thank you for your beautiful post and courage!

    1. Yay Jenn! Thanks for the comment, it’s comments like that that keep me going. We all have to encourage one another:) Blessings to you and your family!!

    2. Tabitha J Sells

      I am thankful for this post…thanks so much for sharing… LOVE “I’d rather have them looking awkward in this world than in the next!”…this stood out for me as a(single awkward feeling)mom❤️
      God blesses always, Glory to Him in all things🙌❤️

  5. Thank you so much for this post. I find myself in a similar place, having grown up the same way and still being somewhat naive in some things. But I certainly don’t see it as a downfall, I think I’m blessed to not be so overly aware of things, especially as so much of the stuff I’m naive about isn’t anything healthy for my mind anyways. It’s certainly a struggle though, I find even among Christian friends, as Satan truly does sneak his way into all the little areas of life to deceive us and make us think we’re doing pretty good. I find myself thinking once in a while that it’s not about whether something is “not that bad,” but whether it is pleasing to God. When you view life that way, it certainly changes your perspective on things.
    I’m encouraged by reading your thoughts that you aren’t afraid of sharing. Jesus never promised that living a life for him would be easy, and it will take us against the flow of society, but we have so much bigger a reward in eternity by doing so. I’ve seen how God can work, and felt his presence and his peace, and if I have to suffer a little and be shunned by the world, I’d rather that than to not have Him.
    God bless you, and thanks again!

  6. What a wonderful post! My son is now 4 months old and I’m already thinking about how to keep his childhood innocent for as long as possible. All we can ultimately do is our best and pray!

  7. We made the decision to home school years ago when our firstborn was ready for school for much the same reason(s) that you are considering it. Although my 12 year old does not (at least to my knowledge) know every swear word in the book (which I did being that I was in the public school system), I do not believe my children are sheltered to the point of social ineptitude. My kids have friends, play sports (with other homeschoolers), and are learning how to really learn — not just pass the next test. That being said, it’s definitely not for everyone, it’s a lot of work, and so I encourage you (or anyone thinking about home schooling) to take the time and prayerfully consider whether you are being called to home school your children. If you are feeling the call to educate your children at home, there are tons of great Christian curriculums available and I think it’s great being able to incorporate our faith in God alongside just about everything they are learning.

    1. Thanks for your comment, and I totally agree that home school kids can be just as aware of how to act in the world as well. There is just so much stereo-typing with homeschooling that I believe is not true, but that’s a whole other blog post:) Thanks for your encouragement and your testimony:)

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